Writing your own wedding vows is not easy, especially since you are having the deepest conversation of your life in front of your friends and family, all while not trying to choke on your words. But don’t worry, we know how to make your vows perfect.
- Make sure your celebrant will allow you to write your own vows. Some celebrants may require you to recite a specific set of vows. Even the most accommodating celebrants will want to review your vows in advance.
- Do not wait for the last minute to write your vows! We cannot stress this enough. You should give them thought and time because if you wait until the last minute you will be rattled with excitement. At the very least, start your vows a month before your wedding, that way you will still have time to proof read and tweak it.
- When setting the tone for your vows, make sure you acknowledge the seriousness of your commitment to one another. Yes, you can still add in a little humor and quirks about each other, but do not lose sight of the importance of your vows.
- If you need inspiration to get started, pull from romantic novels and poetry that inspires you. You can incorporate them into your vows or simply just use them as a launch pad to help you write your own vows.
- Make sure you and your fiance are on the same page. Discuss if you will write your vows together or separately. Would you want to run your vows by each other before the wedding or save it until the big day? These are some topics that should be discussed, prior to writing your vows.
- Reflect on your relationship with your future spouse. This can be done together and you can even make a date night out of it. You can go out to dinner and discuss all of the things you have overcome as a couple and how you have helped each other grow. This sparks ideas for material for your vows. Also, take time to reflect by yourself about how you felt when you first met them and how you feel about your partner. You may be surprise how doing this can lead to the perfect words for your vows.
- Make sure you express your love for one another in a timely manner. Try not to exceed more than one minute. Not that you should put a limit on your love for one another, but you want it to flow with the ceremony and not be dragged out. Plus a minute seems longer than it actually is.
Practice! You want to make sure you practice your vows many times before you recite them in front of everyone you know. Even though you may be a great public speaker, everyone gets nervous once in a while, and you want to make sure you don’t stumble on your word on your wedding day